There is one reason and one reason only that I feel like writing this out. It may sound bitter to some and I'm alright with that but the truth is, I am sick and tired of meeting and dating people with no self confidence! Come on now! The first rule of dating should always be, be happy and confident in who you are and what you want out of life! This isn't about making lists as to what your perfect companion should be like. Let's face facts, no one is perfect and no one should have to fit your lists of demands. You are the only one that should fit the list of demands you have for yourself. So here is the list of demands that I have made for myself and, yes, I will admit that it may include some things that I would like in a partner but not demand from them.
1. My body is beautiful!
If you have body issues, don't like the way you look or may fit a size bigger than what the media and the rest of society tells you is beautiful, then it's up to you to change it. If you're happy, work what your mama gave you! The reason I say this is, people will come into your life and criticize the way you look. It's going to happen. Some may even be spiteful enough to throw your flaws in your face in hopes of harming you. Now, this can't happen if you are happy with who you are on the outside. If some jerk calls you fat or lazy or some other such nonsense and you feel beautiful then you can laugh at them as you walk away. Big, small, tall or short, you are an amazing, unique individual and you should tell yourself that everyday! If you see something in the mirror that you don't like then you change it but not for anyone but yourself. The right man or woman will come along and they will see that you are amazing just as you are. The wrong people will try to change or make you feel less than amazing. If you change for someone other then yourself then the chances are that when they leave your life, you may not like the person you've become.
2. I am worthy!
You should know that you are worthy of something amazing. NEVER let a person make you feel like you are lucky that they chose you to include in their life. If a person makes you feel that, the next thing you know you will be bending backwards to make them happy even at the risk of making yourself unhappy. This is the easiest way to lose sight of the person you really are inside. The person that makes you feel less then worthy will have you jumping through hoops or apologizing when you know deep down inside that you did nothing wrong. They will make you think that the reason they act up is because you weren't doing your best to please them. Puh-lease! The person who feels lucky to have you in their life feels no need to remind you that you should feel lucky they chose you! They will tell you what a blessing you are! Don't forget though, if you feel blessed to have them in your life then you should let them know as often as they let you know so that they don't wonder if you feel the same connection they do.
3. I don't need to prove anything!
There have been a few individual that have entered my life and tell me that I need to prove how I feel. Seriously?! I have never lied to you or given you a reason to doubt my affections but still you want proof?! The only person you have to prove anything to is yourself. When you tell a person that you love them and they tell you to prove it...don't walk, run away! That person may be seriously insecure and that insecurity can turn bad really fast. Granted, there are some that say they love you and then wont call you for a few days. Those are the people that are saying I love you just to hear you say it back or just because they like hearing themselves say it. If you love someone, you tell them every day that you miss them, you talk on the phone or see them as often as you possibly can and still they don't feel loved then it isn't something you aren't doing but something they could be lacking in themselves. You can't give someone the love or security they lack in themselves. It's not possible and you will lose your mind trying.
4. I am not someone's reason for living!
We all have lives to lead. We have jobs and obligations that we had long before we enter into a relationship. You both need to know that your lives cannot come to a complete halt just because someone new has entered your life. Again, there may be times when you might feel neglected and those are the times you should let your partner know. There may be things that are keeping them extremely busy and they will apologize and do their best to make you feel more involved in their life. If, however, you are feeling neglected because you aren't getting a million and one calls or texts in one day and you complain about it constantly, then you may need to realize that you could be putting too much pressure on a person to be the center of your world. Have a life, live it and include that person in your life but do not try to be their life. Some may like that clingy need that you posses but most will buckle under the pressure. The only time I want to be center of someone's world is after I have become their spouse because then I will feel they are the center of mine as well!
I'm sure I could think of some more information to add to this but it wouldn't be a bad idea to mull this over for a bit.
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